exchange of personal vows

The exchange of personal vows is something I will do my best to encourage you to do. It is usually a source of trepidation for a couple, but it adds so much to the ceremony.

I recommend this come between the Declaration of Intent ("I Do's) and the (Formal) Exchange of Rings. This is not really an "I vow..." exchange as much as a sharing of feelings on your wedding day.

Here is an example of some "ground rules" that work for a lot of couples:

  • You don't have to memorize them--you can have a piece of paper or an index card. I will even hold them for you!
  • You can both email me your vows ahead of time so I can assure you both they are "compatible" in length, sentiment, etc.
  • They can be 5-10 (or 8-10) sentences, and be guided by past, present and future:
    • Past- 
      • When I first met you...
      • When I first saw you...
      • I remember when we...
    • Present
      • Today I want you to know...
      • I love you because...
    • Future
      • When I am with you I feel...
      • I will always be...
      • I look forward to out life...
      • I want to grow old...

It is really easy and I will make the process as stress-free and fun as possible. Your vows can be sincere and funny, and should reflect who you are as individuals and as a couple.

Also, here is a (silly) worksheet that may help as a thought-starter.

If you would like for me to look at your personal vows, you may email these individually to me at: scott@revscottdemarco.com

Please also let me know if you'd like me to print and have your vows ready for you on your ceremony day once you have settled on your final set of vows.